Happy Birthday Ellie!
Today you’re two! I can’t believe it. I can’t believe it’s been two years since the most terrifyingly miserable week of my whole life. Your birthday is a difficult day for me to celebrate. You'll understand some day. I persevere. I love you more than you know and I’m so proud of all you’ve accomplished in your short life. You’re determined to prove your abilities. You’re happy. You bring us joy. You radiate happiness. I smile. It’s hard for me to sort out my feelings on your birthday. I’m so happy to have you in my life. You have made me a better person, a better mom, a better dietitian, and a better wife. But when your birthday rolls around I have flashbacks and relive the darkest, most lonely moments of my life. I walked the hospital halls, unable to hold back tears. I’d walk back and forth between the NICU and my room in the Mother/Baby unit. I passed by rooms filled with happy stories. Rooms filled with healthy, normal babies. Rooms filled with visitors and joy. All-day-long. My room was dark and lonely. I wept. I visited you multiple times per day between force-feeding myself each meal. Between each pump session I would deliver milk to the NICU for you. I’d check on you and hold your little hands. I couldn’t hold you without sobbing uncontrollably. Your prognosis was a mystery. I feared I would lose you. I feared I’d have to make a choice to let you go. In a way, I had lost you. I lost the child I had envisioned I’d have. I grieved. You were supposed to be able to take trips to the grocery store with me hitching a ride in a baby carrier. You were supposed to be able to ride in a stroller and go for walks in the neighborhood or hang out in your stroller in the backyard while your big brother played and I tended to the garden. You were supposed to be able to breathe on your own. You were supposed to be cordless. You were supposed to come home with me and cry for me in the night because you needed your mom. Instead I had to leave you with complete strangers every single night. I’d wake up too scared to call and check on you because I was too scared to hear bad news. Every night I was scared I’d get a phone call saying you had died. I coped. It took months but I learned that you could come home and live with your family where you belong. I learned how to take care of you. I made sure I was as practiced as much as possible spending 17 hours per day 7 days per week in the hospital with you so when you came home, I could keep you safe. It was my job to keep you alive. Your breath was literally in my hands. I learned to squeeze the ambu bag. I was breathing for you. It’s an amazing thing yet so, so scary. What if I didn’t do it right? What if I forget how to do CPR? What if I panic and can’t think clearly in an emergency? I learned. Ellie you are so strong. You teach me what true strength is. Some days I wonder how long I can keep up this lifestyle. How can I keep going? Where will I find the energy to keep up with the demands of your needs? How will I be a good enough mom to your brother who is constantly overshadowed by your needs? I wonder. There is a saying “it takes a village to raise a child”. Without my village I would be unable to provide for you. Without our village I wouldn’t be able to care for myself or your brother Nathan or your dad. Without our village I would be alone in this journey. But I’m not alone. We’re surrounded by the best friends, family, community, supporters, caretakers and more love than I knew existed. My heart feels like it will explode on a regular basis. I am grateful. Ellie you have taught me, To be strong. To love unconditionally. To believe. To adjust my sails. To persevere. You are amazing little girl. I’m so lucky to have you in my life. Just please don’t be upset that your birthday makes me cry, likely every birthday will. Most tears are tears of joy. Tears because my heart is so full it’s raining gratefulness. Yes, there are a few tears of sadness and fear but mostly today I’m remembering our journey. Our journey through the storm. We have braved so much and I’m so proud of us. I’m so grateful you’re here. You're my shining light. Happy birthday Ellie. Love, Mom
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10/19/2017 11:43:48 am
Youre so cool! I dont suppose Ive read anything like this before. So nice to find somebody with some original thoughts on this subject. realy thank you for starting this up. this website is something that is needed on the web, someone with a little originality. useful job for bringing something new to the internet!
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1/1/2018 02:36:27 pm
Birthdays are important because it signifies a person's special day. To be honest, I do not understand why some people dislike celebrating their birthday. I know that they have their own reasons, but it is just sad that they cannot be happy on their own day of birth. It is sad that they have experienced a horrible event on the day of their birthday. Because of that event, they cannot even appreciate their special day without having to remember how terrible they must have felt.
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10/26/2017 09:20:01 pm
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AuthorHi I'm Courtney, Ellie's mom. Along with my village I have been raising Ellie (and her big brother Nathan) while learning how to live with and support Ellie's physical disabilities and special needs. It's not easy but our village is amazing. Thank you to all of you who support us, love us, and give hope, send wishes and prayers. We are so incredibly grateful for our community. Archives
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